Some post-breakup rules
March 21, 2006 | Romance Relationship Dating
Whether you call it a “rebound” or not, you’re eventually going to date someone new after a breakup. But if you’re not careful, you’ll wind up jumping into the WRONG situation just to get your mind off your ex  and that can mean even more heartache down the road.
So, here are some post-breakup rules to follow, courtesy of Netscape .com’s relationship expert, Laura Snyder.
- Don’t get serious right away–The ultimate rebound mistake is taking a casual connection to someone and trying to turn it into something more. You don’t want to dump all the baggage from your last romance on the doorstep of the next person who comes along. Because sooner or later – you’re going to have to unpack it. So, make sure you’re TRULY at peace with your last relationship before you get close to someone new.
- Let loose, but don’t come undone. Wanting to go a little crazy after a breakup is normal. But you don’t have to date every Tom, Dick or Harriet that comes your way–Think long and hard before doing something you may regret later – like getting cozy with a friend or coworker. Once you cross that boundary, it’s hard to step back.
- And one last rule when it comes to dating again after a big break-up: Don’t make a point–Another classic rebound mistake is latching on to someone who’s the exact opposite of your ex. On the surface it seems like a great idea. You’re reminding yourself of your ex’s inadequacies by finding someone different someone who likes to play paintball, or doesn’t mind spending hours at the mall with you. But ultimately, this just leaves you blind to the new person’s equally annoying flaws–Like the saying goes nobody’s perfect. Eventually you’ll have to deal with their shortcomings, too.
- Personal relationship values
- Couples who love each other like crazy sometimes fight like crazy
- Fun is important
- Signs of abusive relationships
- Plan a surprise
- The little things
- Is she winking at you or is her contact lens bothering her?
Bottom line? A rebound isn’t about finding The One. It’s about just realizing you’re capable of moving on. When you’re ready, another great romance will find its way into your life.
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